5 Ways to Engage a Partner Who Doesn't Like Your Cannabis Use
The last thing we want is for another person to judge us based on a misconception or stereotype.
This is especially true for cannabis consumers, considering just how much anti-pot stigma has been crammed into people’s heads over the past eight decades.
Although the world is finally starting to see through all the propaganda, and cannabis consumers are beginning to feel more comfortable, coming out green can still be a difficult first step.
And in the context of intimate relationships, keeping it a secret can be toxic.
The reality is that pot can fit into any romantic relationship.
Here are five ways to help ensure your partner’s support and acceptance of your cannabis consumption:
Understand Your Partner’s Rationale
Once you understand why your partner looks down on cannabis, it’s much easier to honor those fears and take a closer look together.
Be explicit about your respect for their opinion, and come prepared with evidence for your own.
Cannabis is shown to be far less harmful than alcohol and other substances. That alone is a pretty shocking fact for most people who’ve never tried the herb.
How Does Cannabis Help You?
Do some self-reflection and figure this out. You always want to be crystal clear on why you're using cannabis in the first place.
Do you use pot to treat a specific medical issue? Does it help you unwind or tap into your creative side? Do you use it to clear your mind so you can be more present and aware when you’re with your partner or family?
If a person hasn’t ever knowingly spent much time with a responsible cannabis consumer, they are probably unaware of all the benefits this plant can bring into someone’s life.
Once you communicate this to your partner, it’s much more likely that they will begin to empathize and respect your views.
The lazy stoner stereotype is prevalent for a reason.
Cannabis has countless benefits, but like everything else in life, it can be abused.
If you become glued to the couch after having a few puffs, and you forget about your partner or your job, that’s not responsible consumption.
Cannabis should expand your horizons, which does not translate to sitting on your ass and watching an entire season of Broad City.
Same thing goes with minding what you eat when you get the munchies. Physical attraction is important in every relationship, so switch out the Flamin’ Hot Cheetos for some watermelon or frozen grapes, and you won’t have to worry about gaining weight.
Don’t give your partner any ammunition to continue being judgmental.
Have a Session Together
If you set a good example as a responsible cannabis user, and your partner starts to come around, why not invite them to try it with you?
For first-timers, vaporizers are way less intimidating than a bong or a joint, and the lack of combustion is reassuring. Either way, pot is much easier to understand if you’ve done it first-hand.
This is a chance for the other person to see that unlike alcohol use, when you consume cannabis, you are still completely in control of your actions.
You won’t get violent or aggressive, and you can genuinely connect and have deep-dive conversations. The sex isn’t bad either.
Just make sure you start off slow and don’t pressure your partner if they’re reluctant.
Whether they decide to try it or not, once your partner understands just how safe and enjoyable cannabis can be, you’ve both done your part.
If All Else Fails…
Some people don’t have an open mind, no matter how much you respectfully reason with them.
Close-minded partners are more trouble than they’re worth, so if someone doesn’t make you happy, they’re not the right person for you.
A great partner will be understanding so long as you’re a responsible consumer and you’ve done everything in your power to understand their point of view and convey yours.
You should never be forced to choose between cannabis and your partner, as that will lead to resentment and unhappiness.
Trust your gut and don’t settle; don’t be afraid to find your perfect match.
People need to stop being ashamed of enjoying cannabis. When used responsibly, it can enhance your life in ways you never thought possible.
Smoking or vaping with your partner is an amazing way to bond and communicate, and you’ll make memories you will always cherish.
If you want to dive deeper on how cannabis can bring you and your partner closer together check out Green Flower's online course with Dr. Jordan Tishler today: “Can Cannabis Solve Our Sex & Intimacy Problems?”
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